November is a big month for me. The weather gets cooler, the leaves turn all sorts of oranges and browns and yellows. The words “pumpkin and spice” make their way back into everyday language. It’s also the month that holds my mother’s birthday, my own birthday, and my personal favorite- Thanksgiving. Amongst other things that happen in November are Veteran’s Day, Plan Your Epitaph Day, National Adoption Day, soccer playoffs, and Black Friday. And oddly enough, every single one of these things has a great significance in my life.
Let’s take a break from the norm and start at the end and work our way backwards.
The 25th of November is the day after Thanksgiving. It’s the day after the day we are so thankful for what we have. The day where we, as a collective society, spend millions of dollars on what we are not thankful that we don’t have. I’m a fan. Great deals, good shopping memories- I don’t know about you, but for me it’s a win-win.
This also happens to be my mom’s birthday. She’ll be 46 this year, but she likes to tell everybody that she’s 29. She could almost pass as a 29 year old, except for the fact that my oldest brother is now 23 and things get weird for obvious reasons.
November 24 is the obvious one. This is the day that Thanksgiving falls on. I will spare you yet another November post about this particular holiday. I won’t delve into the details of the seasoned Thanksgiving turkey in the oven or the smells lingering through the house of the homemade bread. And I most definitely won’t talk about Grandma’s cherry cobbler. Anyways, you get the point.
Let’s skip to November 11th. My favorite day, of course. This is Veteran’s Day- the day we celebrate the men and women who have served our country. But more importantly is that this day is my birthday. My father, a veteran, likes to make light of this day for me and pretend that it’s all about him. An ongoing battle that will wage for many years, I’m sure.
Write your own Epitaph Day. November 2nd. On Epitaphs a short statement is written in honor of the person whose tombstone it resides. This is significant for me because the day that happens to be about Epitaph happens to be the day I lost a friend. One of my best friend’s older brothers to be more specific. He took his own life that morning. The circumstances of that day, and building up to that day, are memories that, like an Epitaph, will be etched in my mind and in my heart forever.
I’m going to commit to writing one post every day for the extent of this month. I should have no trouble coming up with things and events and memories to write about. November is full of joy, and thankfulness, and grief, but most of all November is full of pumpkin spice.